What is fear? I don’t mean when you’re walking down a street at night and you feel like you’re being followed. That is rational and hardwired into our DNA fear. I am referring to the fear we have of something going wrong. We fear not doing the job well enough. We fear not making our appointment on time? There are many fears we can all relate to of this type. They appear to be irrational in nature.
What would happen if we were late for the appointment? What would happen if it was not your best work? What would happen if…? My opinion, nothing! Nothing serious would happen in most cases. Yet we worry and fear that things won’t be what is expected.
What is expected? Do we hold ourselves to a different standard than others? Do you judge someone who was late due to traffic? Do you consider someone’s work to be less than they could have done? Often times we give the people in our lives a pass. You don’t hold others to the same standards as you hold yourself.
Should we ignore our fears? I don’t believe so. I believe our fears tell us something about ourselves. We need to listen. However, we do not need to dwell on these fears. Ask yourself, what would happen if? Most of the times it is not of major consequence. We can give ourselves a pass.
Our expectations of ourselves are important. We should all try to be better. This is part of what makes us who we are. Without setting a standard, we are not serving ourselves or those in our lives. So today don’t fear, give yourself a pass and next time you will do better.